You need to love yourself before you can fall in love with someone else. That is a saying that I love and fully understand now.
I’ve had two serious boyfriends, both with the same name. Should’ve been my red flag right then and there. However you live and you learn and that’s all a part of being in your mid-twenties. I don’t regret either relationship and I often think about the memories we had. I’ve also learned a lot about myself threw these relationships. Learned who I am, what I want and what I don’t want in a partner.
I was devastated and heart broken after my last relationship. It came out of nowhere, but that is a story for another day…another blog. So I’ve been single for a little over a year and have LOVED it. I have never been that girl in a relationship who throws it all away for that one guy. I have always enjoyed my life and kept my friends and family. But just something right now about being single in my mid-twenties is the greatest feeling.
I live with two of my best friends and we are single, so that just makes it even more fun. I say also that this is hopefully the last time in my life that I will be single. I do want to get married and have a family some day, so this is it until I find that prince charming or for me that hockey player 😉
Enjoying the single life and focusing on myself -20’s are for learning… is exactly how I am living my life right now. And don’t get me wrong I am not condoning being in a relationship. Two of my best friends are engaged, they just happened to find their soul mates, I haven’t yet.
My first relationship was long-term, he was my high school sweetheart. I was never one who always relied on a man. But the comfort of having a best friend and a lover was nice. Then college happened and I was ready to enjoy being single and exploring what the single life is like.
Post college I was still single and loving life, nobody likes you when you’re 23 was the motto of my life that year.
24, 25 I entered my next relationship. Had a blast, met a lot of awesome people, some who I still even hang out with.
After the heartbreak and months, I finally felt like myself again. Free and ready to enjoy life as the independent young women that I am.
Do I get lonely at times and have those winter months where I wish I had a cuddle buddy? -Of course! But at the end of the day focusing on myself and enjoying my friends and family and doing everything for MYSELF is a great feeling. And not for nothing, but the amount of money I save around the holidays is great. I buy myself presents because you need to “treat yo self!”
Some advice is don’t be too boyfriend hungry when you are that’s when you find the wrong guys and then get disappointed. What is meant to be will happen. The saying when you least expect it, it will happen is SO true. I can relate on that one big time with my previous boyfriend. I wanted nothing to do with a boyfriend and I even told him that and then a few months later boom we are dating.
You never know what could come your way or who you may meet. Being out with friends enjoying yourself and loving yourself is a very sexy and confident feature that men do notice.
I live for my weekends, those are the times I feel alive. I am always doing something, always have weekends planned and fun events. I can do this because all I am focusing on is myself, being that strong independent women in her mid-twenties.
I love myself and the life that I live and realizing I don’t need a boyfriend to give me this happiness is great. As the meme for the featured image says, “but a cute boy would be nice but idk.” Yes of course it would be, but as long as it’s fun and casual. I will always be open and optimistic and that is advice I give to all you young ladies in your mid-twenties. You never know that next cute boy at the bar could be the one. But until that special moment happens focus on yourself and loving yourself.
You don’t need a boyfriend to realize this. And once you do you will realize how great of a feeling it is to make yourself happy!
So go out there, live your life on the weekends, go to bars, dance with that cute boy, give out your phone number, swipe right and enjoy not being in a relationship because for most single mid-twenties this may be your last hooray!