One of my New Year’s resolutions for 2018 was to put myself out there and join a dating site. I’m not talking Bumble or Tinder…been there done that. Refer back to my “This is Bumble” blog post for a good laugh.
Those sites to me were more entertainment with girlfriends than anything else. So I decided it was time to get on an official dating site, one that you pay for. If men are paying to date then I figured they have to be serious and just looking for a “hook up.”
A few days after Christmas, I joined Match.com. I only signed up for three months because I wanted to be able to give myself enough time to get a feel for the site, what is has to offer, what is out there for a dating pool…
In my mid twenties dating is a whole new game now. I have friends who have been in long term relationships and are clueless when it comes to the virtual dating world. Lucky them!
But it is time for me to put myself out there, see what happens because I do want to get married and have kids. I know times have changed but time is starting to tick especially after being almost a month in to Match.com and realizing how much of a game and effort dating is.
I put a lot and time into my profile and pictures. I wanted to make sure I was expressing my values, who I am and what I am looking for because that is all these guys have to “judge” before they decide to wink, like my photos or message me.
And let me tell you it is a very judgey site, we all know people are looking at the pictures before the bio. I can admit that I will but also look a lot into the profile, as a Writer if you take your time to write about yourself and your values in your profile you automatically gain points for me. AND especially if it is written with proper grammar…extra points!
But I will say within the month I have been active on the site, I have learned about myself a little, about what I want in life and with a partner. I will say there is times that I doubt if I am ready for this dating world. I have been single now for two years and feel I am ready to open my life up to a relationship.
So for all of you out there who have experienced or are currently experiencing dating sites, which ones are you on and how are they going for you?
My cousins both met their wives on Match.com and the other on eHarmony.com, SO I know there is hope out there. It’s not going to happen over night, dating is a game and love takes work. So give it a shot what do you have to lose?
I had my first date two weeks into being active on the site and although I thought it went great and we hit it off….boy was I wrong. I plan to blog about my experiences with men from dating sites. The ones I make a “connection” with, so stayed tuned my friends!